Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Family distance

Time has started to fly and sometimes I find it overwhelming and sometimes I find it exciting. One of the hardest things for me to deal with is just the fact that my mom is thousands of miles away.

I try to remind myself that even if I lived in the U.S. I would not see her very often unless I had stayed in the same city as her after high school which I doubt, but it can still be frustrating to think about having to spend half a grand just to see her for a few weeks.

However I have been talking to my husband about my "ideal plan" for when the baby comes and that includes two visits a year to my mom in the States some visits with my husband and some visits without- mainly due to the big money factor and the fact that he needs to work, and her visiting us once a year here. This will end up to about 9 weeks give or take of great quality time for us with grandma and in the end I have to think that that is more then many kids get.

I also hope to be able to send kids to "grandma" for summer breaks when they get older. Summer break is only 6 weeks here so not the three months that people are used to in the States but I don't think I could handle more then 6 weeks without my (future tee hee) children anyway.

So what do you think of my solution? Would you do something different? Moving isn't an option.


  1. I think thats a good plan. I am also in the same boat as you so we plan to do something similar. Twice a year hopefully, maybe 3 times a year with one visit from my parents for 4 times a year. Hopefully we can maintain that and I also plan to send my kids to the States for summer breaks as well.

  2. Sounds like a great plan! I'm sure once it is in action you could all even come up with other plans. That really is a lot of quality time for her and your future kids, really more than most people get, so you are right about that :o)

  3. I loved spending 3-4 months a year in Poland when I was little so that I could be with my grandparents and the rest of my family (since it was just my parents that were in the US). I have the best memories from it and I think it benefited me enormously to be exposed to so many different things (we traveled a lot in the US and in Europe). I think that's the best plan and that way they can perfect both their German and English accents :)